It is October.  And on October 21 it was Five Months since my breasts became a memory.  Double mastectomy took them.  And yes, October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month.  Rest assured, I am aware.

A friend of mine has his own blog. The most recent one stands out to me:  WHY.

I have read the book— “IT STARTS WITH WHY.”  And it is true, everything does start with the question WHY?

• Why do I care about this?

• What do I already know about it?

• What do I need to learn or add to my knowledge?

• What do I know is not true about this?

Find out the answers to these important questions.

I have not placed pronouns next to my name as I have seen many have done. Being of the older generation, I just assumed (and we know what that means) the pronouns you use were evident by how I look and my name. Worse yet, I get confused when they use a plural pronoun with a singular verb. I was reading a bio one day and I had to read it aloud to myself in order to understand the article at all.

While the decision of what avenues to take boils down to Emotional versus Medical, the friends you have come in two forms: Emotional or Practical. And, many can be both! The Emotional variety of friend you can call or be with them in person, and they watch you cry, laugh, and really good ones, offer you wine. You tell them –well everything. The Practical variety offer rides to the appointments, ideas for the new jewelry you will need to wear, and many, survivors themselves, insights to the future.